We all sometimes feel like we fall short as moms, wives and women. That’s normal. But, don’t hold onto that feeling! It only works to disappoint, sadden and eventually wound your inner diva. What you need is a little encouragement. You need someone to be your friend and tell you that you are doing great and you probably just need to reclaim your balance and seek yourself out.
While I like to encourage you to find your inner diva via beauty routines, fashion and taking pride in how you present yourself to the world, I know someone who has a slightly different approach to helping you rediscover your inner diva!
Mommy Confidence: 8 Easy Steps to Reclaiming Balance, Motivation, and Your Inner Diva by Kimberley Clayton Blaine, The Go-To-Mom, needs to be next on your reading list!
Even when times get difficult, whether due to economic or unfortunate circumstances, Blaine states, moms need to accept and find peace in their lives. There is always time for change. She says, “Children learn invaluable lessons when they see their mother toughing it out and still being a cheerleader of life.” Children inherit maternal strength and confidence.
It’s so easy to get caught up in life isn’t it? It’s common to have too much on your plate, to have to plan, plan, plan and live a life of busyness. Especially when you are a mom! Not only do you have to consider your own needs, wants and desires (are you?) but you have to consider that of your families and employers as well. It’s easy to worry about where the next $100 will come from to fill up your SUV with gas and worry about if your children should be vaccinated or not.
We just talked about how to Fake a Gorgeous Golden Glow now let’s talk about how to create the “glow” from the inside. Afterall, when you feel successful, enthusiastic and glowing on the inside, it will show as beauty on the outside for the whole world to see!
What makes you tick? What makes you excited? What do you feel passionate about? When you discover what your “thing” is, you will have a clearer vision of where you want to be. It will ignite your fire and cause you to take action instead of just going through the routine of everyday. It helps you create extraordinary opportunities in your life when you have an idea of how you want to spend your life.
From the book “Starring in Your Own Life” by Lena Nozizwe you’ll find that your hidden star quality is already within you. It’s a matter of unwrapping it and making the changes in your life to bring the glow to the surface. Remember, your inner glow may come from different things at different times in your life. If you are a brand new mom I’m willing to guess that your baby is what makes you glow. Just holding and starting at that sweet face makes your heart sing. It makes you want to be the best mom in the whole world. Once your kids start preschool or elementary school your inner glow may come from a new project. This does not mean you give up on the goal of being the best mom in the world! It’s ok to evolve and make adjustments. It’s good for you to take on new projects and things that create excitement within you!
This is what Lena shares about motivation:
It’s been 3 weeks since the last Monday Motivation. It’s not because I’m not motivated. I am, I’m too motivated for my own organizational skills, which are lacking. It’s been a busy, crazy, emotional 3 weeks to say the least. Here are a few things that have happened in my life:
1. One week from closing escrow on a beautiful new home, 5 weeks from the actual move, we decide NOT to move. Some of the conditions of why to move changed and now we have to scramble to reverse the efforts of the last 6 months.
2. My step-daughter gets into her 2nd car accident in less than a year, making her car once again, un-drivable. She is fine.
3. A steel bike rack fell on my foot. Still bruised and painful in closed shoes.
4. Big fight with hubby (possibly due to stress…???)
5. Hurt my back, still don’t know how. Spent a full day on my back laying on ice.
7. Found a white eyebrow hair
Now, I don’t tell you those things so you can feel sorry for me (except the white eyebrow hair, you can totally feel sorry for me on that one!). I tell you because I want you to know that I’m just like you (sometimes it’s nice to know others are going through stuff too.) My life is complete with “learning experiences” and instead of feeling sorry for myself, I am moving on and getting over them. Here are some good things that have happened in my life in the same 3 week span: