We talk about beauty and fashion on A Mom in Red High Heels because it’s fun. We also talk about it because how you feel about yourself matters. When someone you love is losing her hair because the medication she is taking to try and save her life is causing it to fall out, you suddenly feel like the next great hair product doesn’t really matter. It’s perspective and it’s important to have it, which is why I share this story with you:
Imagine for a moment that you have had a roller coaster of a life, complete with the lows of an abusive relationship and the highs of beautiful children and a job you love. Now imagine having horrible headaches that get treated with the typical prescription drugs that ER doctors give you. You finally convince the powers that be that you there is something “really wrong” and get some extensive testing to discover you have a tumor the size of a golf ball on your brain and that it’s cancerous. Stage 4, in fact. Imagine being given 6-14 months to live.
This story is not fictional. This story is the story of my cousin, pictured above with her 3 girls (on right), my daughter and myself (on left). We recently visited with her in Michigan while on a girl’s trip with my mom. It was a fun reunion to see everyone and especially great to see Heather rocking her gorgeous head scarf shortly after having brain surgery.
Heather is very independent and asking for help does not come naturally. However, since she has not been able to work since May, she has run out of money to support herself and her children. The programs she has applied for assistance with will not be available for her until months from now. What a scary position to be in…sick and vomiting as she goes through chemo, radiation and an experimental drug…with the worry that she will not meet the most basic needs of her children.
It’s a horrible place to be. Horrible.
But she doesn’t have to do this alone. Her sweet best friend has started a fundraising effort to assist Heather.
My best friend Heather was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer in May 2012. The average survival rate for this type of cancer is only 6-14 months. She is 31 years old and a single mother of 3 amazing girls. She is currently undergoing chemo and radiation everyday. She has not been able to work since May and has no income. This is a time in her life when she should be out enjoying every precious moment with her kids but is unable to. Any donations made would be to help with her rent and all other bills and maybe be able to go out and do something fun with her kids. Anything that anyone would be able to give would be a huge blessing! We also ask that you share this story and pray for her and her family. Thank you again!
To echo Leah’s plea: Anything that anyone would be able to give would be a huge blessing!
If I had to live that story, I pray others would surround me with love and support. I can’t imagine the fear that arises in her. When she jokes about her hair falling out or that her skull incision is her “squishy,” you know that she is just trying to make the best of a bad situation. It must be the hardest thing in the world wondering if you are going to see your 1-year-old turn 2 and wondering what will happen to your children if you don’t make it. (That is a silent conversation. We don’t talk about, we stay optimistic but it’s an underlying dark energy that lingers and any mother would naturally worry about!)
Would you bless Heather and her girls? If you are able to help in any way, it would be a wonderful gesture. When we reach out to others and pass on love, we are building a more caring world, one beautiful gesture at a time. Heather and her daughters are going to remember the wonderful people who helped them during a very difficult time.
If you are able, please make a donation at GoFundMe.com. The site is legit. You can make a donation of any amount and even share the story on your Facebook page if you’d like to keep the chain of love going. The power of many is so much greater than the power of one. You may think a $5 donation is not even worth the effort but if 20 people make that $5 donation, we are moving toward making a significant difference. This mom needs the love and support of complete strangers to get through the hardest time of her life.
We value and appreciate your prayers for healing, financial support and care for Heather and her daughters. Thank you!