Why is it in our culture to hate on those who succeed?

Gwyneth Paltrow has been in the news a ton this past month and most of it has been negative. She has been criticized for showing too much skin for her age, for “starving her kids” and now because she has been crowned the world’s most beautiful woman by People magazine (apparently, Twitter went crazy with hate).

I say, give Gwyneth Paltrow a break!

I think she is a role model for any woman who wants to be successful in life.   We have a lot to learn from her.  Here’s why:

  1. Workout regularly for a healthy body and mind.  She works out because, “It makes me look younger and feel strong. It’s like brushing my teeth, I just do it.” (source)  Shouldn’t we all be taking care of our bodies so they are healthy, strong and youthful?  Who doesn’t want that?  I think if we are honest with ourselves, we ALL want that but make excuses why we can’t.  Gwyn has great self-discipline, that’s why she looks so good (and has success in so many areas of her life).
  2. Represent yourself and your business well.  She wears short skirts and hot pants.  She’s 40.  So what?! She’s got the body for it, as discussed above.  Does she wear these itty-bitty clothes when taking her kids to school?  No, she wears them when promoting her new cookbook, “It’s All Good: Delicious, Easy Recipes That Will Make You Look Good and Feel Great” which promotes good health. She wears leg-baring skirts when promoting her new fitness studio (in partnership with Tracy Anderson).  It’s called good marketing! You wouldn’t want to buy her book or go to her gym if she had a muffin-top, knee fat and pasty white legs.  She’s a business woman.  She understands what sells and a sexy, healthy body is what sells, especially in the health/fitness industry.  As far as age and fashion, I don’t believe age should be a limiting factor.  Body type, yes.  Occasion the outfit is worn for, yes.  Both need to be “appropriate” but if you feel confident, look amazing and own great wardrobe pieces that fit your body well, wear them.  Who cares what your age is!
  3. Be authentic to who you are.  She promotes uber expensive wardrobe and home items on her website GOOP.  Her reality is different than most of ours.  She can buy a $700 t-shirt and not blink.  Why would we want her to suggest budget-friendly buys or drugstore beauty?  There are plenty of other websites that do this and do it well.  Gwyn is just being authentic to who she is when she talks about her fashion choices. I love the insight into how a wealthy, stylish woman lives!  I use her suggestions as inspiration because I do like her personal style.  In a sense, GOOP can be used as a dream board!  If her style inspires you, use it to craft your own looks.
  4. Ignore the Critics.  As far as “Starving her kids,” I haven’t read the cookbook but the argument is that she denies her kids carbs and kids need carbs to grow. My take on this is simple: teach your children to eat healthy for a lifetime of good health.  Too many busy moms just grab the quickest processed food that is in the freezer!  Complex carbs are not all that great for your health, especially those filled with gluten.  Gwyneth knows what works for her kids and regardless of the critics, acts accordingly.  Just like we all should do for our kids even when the mother-in-law frowns upon it.  Use wisdom and do what works for your family. End of story.

Gwyneth inspires me to work hard, pay attention, do my research and be my personal best everyday, despite what others are saying.

What are your thoughts on learning from Gwyneth?  Anything you’d like to add?

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  1. Gwyneth also came up with one of my favorite style quotations: “Beauty to me, is about being comfortable in your own skin. That or a kick-ass red lipstick.” I was a doubter before I heard that and then decided she was pretty cool.

  2. I think she’s an inspiration to women everywhere. I love her attitude towards life, and she works hard so why shouldn’t she reap the rewards. If you’ve got it, flaunt it 🙂